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Dennis LaneWhat do I remember the most about Dennis Lane?

His laughter.

That thought is quickly followed by so much else: his generosity of spirit, his love of dogs, his love of his community, his boundless curiosity, his genuine interest in others. But for me, it always comes back to his sense of humor, that twinkle in his eye, his bark of laughter and the fact that he never took himself too seriously.

In thinking back, through grief and shock, to my favorite memories of Dennis, they are all colored by his laughter and his joy in life. Each and every one. Blog parties. Community events. Meetings. Gatherings.

WordbonesWhen did I first meet Dennis? I truly can’t recall. If I had to guess, it was at a Blogtail Party at Kloby’s, years ago. “This is Dennis Lane – also known as Wordbones.” One of the magical things about Dennis was this: once you met him, you felt as if you’d known him forever.

I loved reading his blog – Tales of Two Cities. What was it about? Everything. Local stuff. Politics. Pictures he liked. Videos. Anything that caught his curiosity and attention. His posts were ALWAYS peppered with links – to articles, to silly comics, to videos – each one waiting like a little present, waiting for the click. Notably, his blog’s address on Blogspot is “Writing the wrongs.” I always loved that image – the idea that writing could make a difference.

I loved that the highest accolade he would give on his blog was “A wag of the Wordbones tail.”

The part that made me grin, though, was his disclaimer, which summed up his larger than life personality in a nutshell:



We were Celebrity Bartenders together a couple of years ago at Evening in the Stacks. We were invited to a pre-event cocktail hour, Evening in the Stacks 2012and spent most of that time together laughing, talking about how we hoped we didn’t come in last in tips, crafting intricate plots to thwart the other bartenders. We stood next to each other at the bar, stealing and hiding bottle openers in a transparent attempt to outmaneuver each other. Later that evening, someone bumped Dennis’s arm and he spilled red wine on the carpet – the library building was brand-spanking-new at that point. He was so proud – first spill! – that he posed for pictures by the stain. Of course we all joked that they’d have to use our tip money to replace the carpet.

At a meeting for this year’s event – Evening in the Stacks: Sparkle & Spurs – we sat together, marveling at the very idea of an Antler Bar and chuckling over the description of the key element of the lobby decorations: “A horse. But not a real horse.”

Whenever I was at the Mall on a Friday, I’d make a point to walk by to see if Dennis and Paul were podcasting And Then There’s That. I didn’t often have the time to sit and watch and listen, but when I did I thoroughly enjoyed it. Mostly I’d walk by, trying to simultaneously show my support while not interrupting (a difficult balance, as you can imagine). Invariably Dennis would glance up and see me. His face would light up and I’d be gifted with his huge smile and a wave.

And that’s what it always felt like when I saw Dennis: a gift. A moment to treasure.

A toast to my friend and a wagging tail.

I looked forward to seeing him at events: at Blogtail parties, in particular. He moved through the crowd effortlessly, always with a kind word, encouragement and a smile.

He took great joy in hearing stories about my dogs, and I know he mourned the loss of his. I like to think they’re together now in the great beyond, wandering along a hiking trail or enjoying each other’s company on a patio: Dennis with a glass of wine, Mars munching contentedly on biscuits, tail gently wagging.

I’ve already found myself looking for Dennis when I’m out and about. Just yesterday, I thought I saw him in a crowd. I sped up, on the verge of calling his name until I remembered the truth: I won’t see my friend again. He is gone. And I miss him deeply.

The pain will lessen in time. We will go on. Our community will heal.

And as that happens, I hope that we will let ourselves remain inspired by a good man. That we will each, in our own way, honor his memory. That we will let his laughter and his zest for life echo in our hearts and minds and actions.

Dennis – fiercely intelligent – was not afraid to speak his mind and to respectfully challenge people. He stood up (and spoke up) for what he believed, and he didn’t back down in the face of threats or negativity. He did his homework, and worked hard to keep our community informed. He was willing to discuss and legitimately consider alternate viewpoints, an all-too-rare trait in today’s world. He was able to apologize, when needed. He was willing to change his mind.

And in doing all of this, he changed the world. My world, at least. He inspired me to write, to think, to laugh, to learn, to listen and to love our community with all of it’s fables and foibles and fights, the good and the bad and everything in-between.

He inspired me to hope.

Writing the wrongs, indeed.


Here are tributes to Dennis Lane from fellow bloggers – please take a moment to read them. Each shares unique memories, touches upon his spirit and character in ways that simply can’t be captured by just one person. And each and every one of them is beautiful. If I’ve missed any, please feel free to let me know and I’ll add them. 

The Rocket Powered Butterfly – One Last WagHoCoRising – My Man Dennis, HoCoRising – Lessons Dennis Taught Me,  Awesome Columbia – Dennis LaneJessie X – RIP Dennis, Do I Amuse You? – I Lost a Friend, But Not His InspirationHoCoLoco, Village Green/Town Squared – A Great Little Story, HoCo Connect – Blogging Community’s Loss, The 53 – Wordbones, Frank Hecker – RIP, Dennis LaneSteve Charing – The Senseless Loss of Dennis Lane, HowChow – Dennis Lane was a Wonderful Guy, UK Desperate Housewife – Goodbye Dennis J. Lane, Lisa B, Mrs. S, HoCoConnect – Bloggers as SuperconnectorsAnnieRie Unplugged – A Hole In Our Hearts, AnnieRie Unplugged -Wegmans, wordbones and howchow, Kitchen Scribble – It Takes a Village, The 53 – June 4th is Kind of a Big Deal,  Business Monthly – A Requiem for Dennis,  Business Monthly – He Was One of a Kind, HoCoRising – Living Like a Visitor, HoCoRising – “It’s a Dark Suit”,  HoCoRising – Wordbones Memorial Book Club, Examorata – What Can Be Done, The 53 – Remembering Dennis Today



I firmly believe that every one of us has something to offer, and that each of us can make a difference in this world. I also believe that it’s vitally important that we not take ourselves too seriously, enjoy life, and have fun.

This Post Has 20 Comments

  1. gypsypalace

    Thank you so much, Mickey.  I have waited to read this until I thought I could do it without crying.  I was wrong.  This is so beautiful.

  2. easelqueen

    Beautifully written, very touching. Thanks for being there yesterday.

  3. 9to9dancer

    Thank you for writing this. I am glad Mark Scott shared it. 
    I knew Dennis and taught Morgan for two years when she was 4 and 5. It’s all just so sad and so unexplainable. I pray for all of you each day, especially Paul and Dave as they were so close.
    I know what it is to lose someone you love. Sometimes there are no words. You found the words. Congratulations on a great blog.

  4. LucretiaPruitt

    A very lovely tribute. You know when you read something and think “why didn’t I get to know that person?” It’s one of those tributes. I’m so sorry for his loss. The world is a lesser place.

  5. HeidiMassey

    I worked at a synagogue for 10 years, and as sort of part of the job description, I went to a lot of funerals. Every now and then, there was a eulogy for someone I didn’t meet that made me say afterwards, I am so sorry I never met this person. That’s what your tribute for Dennis made me feel. 
    So sorry for your loss Mickey. Sounds like he was an incredible person. I hope that your memories and the memories of the rest of the community serve as some form of comfort.

  6. danperezfilms

    Not sure how I missed this but if I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times – this is what writing (blogging) should be about.
    Sorry for the loss of your friend, surely he’s smiling down reading this post…

  7. JessieNewburn1

    What a lovely tribute, Mickey! You’d make him blush were he to read this … and for all the right reasons: that you’re spot on with seeing him in his shining light!

  8. GCGeek

    Love. It. ~Thank you for writing! And sharing! I almost lost it in Starbucks today. And that’s OK. 🙂

    1. mickeygomez

      GCGeek And I say the same to you – your post resonated with me so much, remembering how Dennis would ALWAYS ask about the other person first and discuss himself second (if at all).  I admired that greatly about him, his innate ability to make the person he speaking with feel like The Most Important Person in the Room. What a gift.
      And to your point about Starbucks, I offer a quote by Stephen King: “Grief is like a drunken house guest, always coming back for one more goodbye hug.” We all deal with it in our own time, in our own way. And that is absolutely okay. Hugs, my friend, and thank you.

      1. GCGeek

        mickeygomez OK, Mickey. Now you’re just trying to make me cry. 😉 {{{HUGS}}} Thank you!

  9. biggreenpen

    I don’t know what it is about this day or this time in my life — I have a 65 year old friend who just had a double bypass that prompted questions about the impact he’s made, and a 47 year old friend who had a double bypass after suddently collapsing from a heart attack who looks at things completely differently now — all of this seems to be coalescing into a hunger to read the “why’s” and “how’s” of why we do what we do. And I am always drawn most to the ones that show that the individual was living out a passion — and they make me want to make sure I do the same. Which is all a long way of saying — well done, beautiful tribute — wish I had known him too.

    1. mickeygomez

      biggreenpen Dennis really was a spectacular person, so much so that this almost wrote itself. A wonderful thing – when we are most inspired, that’s when we tend to inspire others. He did that – through his blog and through his daily interactions. It seems that your friends are discovering the same thing, in their own ways. Thank you for stopping by and for your kind comments and for sharing your thoughts.

  10. wendyscherer

    Really lovely, Mickey.

  11. allenmireles

    What a beautiful tribute, mickeygomez. He sounds like someone I would have adored knowing and I am so sorry for his passing and for your loss.

    1. mickeygomez

      allenmireles Thanks, Allen – you would have loved him, I know. I really appreciate you taking the time to stop by and to share. xo

  12. bobledrew

    I guess the best thing that can be said about a blog post like this is: “After reading this, I wish I could have known Dennis.”

    1. mickeygomez

      bobledrew You two would’ve gotten along famously, Bob. Of that I have no doubt. And thank you.

  13. ukhousewifeusa

    Lovely piece 🙂

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